January 28, 2011

When a relationship hits a rocky patch, many people focus on the negative side. But if its worth saving then
the secret to a successful relationship is not to highlight the negative, but to accent and maximise the positives. A happy relationship focuses on the do’s and can’s.
Couples who actively work towards creating a fun, satisfying and intimate relationship for each other have a longer lasting successful relationship.
The following tips will help you maintain a happy relationship.

1. HAVE FUN!!!!
Life is more than working, sleeping and paying the bills. It is supposed to be fun!!!!
One of the first things to disappear when you get so wrapped up in the busy side of life is your sense of fun. Use your silly pet names, have a joke and tease them, take time out to have that pillow fight!!!!!

Add some sparkle to your partners’ day and pay them a compliment. When you start getting use to your partner, we start to take our partners for granted. Even a simple “thank you” for doing something small, will go a long way!!! Use “you” rather than “I” when you do express your gratitude, it makes it far more meaningful! What works better? “I really enjoyed dinner, thank you” or “You are a great cook, dinner was amazing, thank you”.

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, it’s easy to stop noticing changes in your partner. We are all individuals and never stop growing and changing.Couples in a successful relationship pay attention to their partners, they notice the small thing. For example hair, clothes, if they are up set or happy!!!! It’s great to be able to notice when something is changed and you can compliment or comfort your partner!!

Your partner is more than just a shoulder to cry on in tough times. Couples in a happy relationship don’t miss an opportunity to celebrate success or cheer each other on. When something good happens make the most of it! Also a great thing is to encourage your partner to do the things that they want to do and see if you can help!!!

Physical closeness enhances your connection with your partner. Yes, regular sex is great, but even if your sex life gets a bit tiring, you can maintain that closeness. A hug, a back rub, holding hands or a simple touch can boost your emotional connection with your partner. To me nothing is better that a hug!!!!!!

Nothing beats a hand written letter or note. It gives you a romantic feelings and that warm fuzzy feeling when you receive a letter from the one you love. You don’t have to be a literacy expert either, a post it note on the mirror, “I love you!” written in the snow, a note left in a lunchbox – you get the idea, be creative. Write down your feelings for your partner and let them know.

A successful relationship is a partnership, investing time in your life and happiness will mean you have more to offer that partnership. This is even more important if your relationship is going through a rocky patch.
Don’t focus on what your partner is doing wrong (or not doing at all) make your own life more satisfying by not relying on your partner to be the only source of happiness. This helps take the pressure off and bring a positive attitude back into the relationship.
Small positive gestures are important they help maintain a happy relationship.

Just using one or two of these secrets for creating a successful relationship will make a big impact – try them and see!


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