January 16, 2011

Going out on a date somethimes can be like a strategic game. You go in there looking your best, with the best lines, the swagger, looking to win the prize of your date.
But isnt dating suppose to be spontanious? Of course but we go out of our way to give ourselves the best advantgae to make a good impression. Theres a saying that when you go on a date with someone you actaully seeing their representive and you will se the real them over time if it gets past the fies date. So each does their bet to impress.
But through some research and my older sister’s experience, I”ve found that there are a few mistakes responsible for more failed dates and relationships with men than any other factors. Here they are:

Mistake 1: Leading A Man To Think You Are “Needy” And “Insecure”

Did you know that there are 6 ways you can set off a man”s “Insecurity Alert” and make him think twice about pursuing a relationship with you?

Sadly, even confident women often “accidentally” give off one of these signs… and just one can kill the chance of a man asking you on a second date.

As you read through these signals men pick up on as “needy” and unattractive, ask yourself if YOU have ever been guilty of committing one of these deadly mistakes:

Talking or saying nasty things about your past boyfriends. Saying bad things about men you have been involved with actually reflects the negatively back on YOU. It makes a man worry you are carrying around “baggage” that HE will have to deal with should he become involved with you.

Also speaking negatively about other women. When women call other women names like “slut”, “bitch”, and “crazy”, it is anything but impressive to a man you are attracted to. Women will often do this when they see a good looking, desirable woman, especially if they feel their man might be attracted to her. This just makes a man think you are trying to cover up your own insecurities, and looking for validation and attention. Not good!!!!!
Too much physical contact, especially in public.
If you are constantly hanging on a man or touching him too much he”ll start to see it as clingy behavior…He may seem that he dosnt mind purely because he thinks hi won you over but in the long run trust me they dont like it!!!! And you”ll never hear about this from him. It”s far better to save your touches for short and infrequent moments that will surprise and enchant him.

The next few are far deadlier, but less obvious… and it”s important that you learn what they are and how to avoid giving them off.

But before I show you how to do that, let”s talk about mistake #2:

Mistake #2: Appealing To His “Sexual” Side Instead Of His Emotional Side

Many women make the mistake of thinking that men are primarily driven by sex alone… and think if they can attract a man SEXUALLY they will be able to attract him EMOTIONALLY as well.

Women too often give up sex to a man in the hopes that it will translate into a relationship and get them what they want. In reality, a man has the capacity to view a sexual connection and an emotional connection as two entirely different things, and it requires a special set of skills to mold these two things together in a man”s mind… and keep them connected…i hope i didnt lose you so stay with me.

Men are out for far more than just sex… WHAT!!! you say trust me with this.. and a woman who knows how to fulfill a man EMOTIONALLY and SEXUALLY will be the woman who captures a man”s heart… and gets that same fulfillment for HERSELF.

Mistake #3: Not Knowing How To Size Up A Man”s “Relationship Potential”

A lot of women will decide whether or not they should put energy into building a relationship with a man based on ATTRACTION.

Yes, attraction is important. But it can also be DANGEROUS.

When we feel a strong sense of attraction for someone, it can cause us to override our logic and ignore our instincts… leading us to overlook potential partner”s deadly faults that could spell trouble down the road.

If you”ve ever found yourself stuck in a relationship that is dragging you down, this is probably why.

It”s important to be able to size a guy up and spot any “warning signs” of a future bad relationship FAST… so you don”t waste any of your time or emotional energy on someone who isn”t right for you… or who will leave you heartbroken. At the end of he day dating is great , fun and exciting so enjoy but be remember what you have learnt as it will save you a lot of time and energy going down that rocky road.


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